WE SKID
I
Skid
Across
This
World
We barely touch
So much is going on
I miss so much
My eyes
Slide
My brain cells
Glide
Too much I slip
Energy I skid
Too much I fool
To see I kid
What is
I guess
I make up
The rest
Teeming energy
I cannot see
From molecule to galaxy
Attractive magnetism
Profound gravity
Unseen
Flies from you to me
I
Skid
Across
This
World
We barely touch
So much is going on
I miss so much
I
Skid
Across
This
World
We barely connect
I see p a r t i a l l y
But not what you expect
I hear your words
I sense your touch
I feel the sun
But not too much
I slide. I skid
I don’t see it all I think. I see
I don’t know your red I understand
I miss-see it all Hazily
With the words you said
I slide and skid
I think I know
Just one percent
Of your rainbow
I
Skid
Across
This
World
We barely connect
My senses detect
But what else would you expect?
I miss so much
Opher 6.12.98
The biological imperative is to get copies of you genes into subsequent gene pools (generations).
The more successful an organism is the more copies of its genes are present down the line.
Sex mixed genes and causes variation.
Variation enables mutation and adaptation to change. It gives a greater chance of success.
Males and females use different tactics to get greater chances of success.
Males
Males produce billions of sperm. They can physically father thousands of offspring.
They are less choosy about who they select to mate with.
They go for quantity of offspring and not quality.
The ideal circumstances for a male is to have a stable relationship in which a small number of children are cared for and nurtured. This gives them a better survival rate and hence a greater chance that his genes with successfully survive into future gene pools. But at the same time to mate with a number of other females and impregnate them. They will then bring up his children in other nurturing environments without him having to contribute.
Females
Females only produce a small number of eggs. Due to the length of the gestation period they can only mother a limited number of children.
They go for quality over quantity.
They are more choosy about who they select as a mate.
They attract in a number of males and select the best to mate with.
They then create a stable relationship in which both male and female nurture the children giving them the greatest opportunity for survival. That way she ensures the maximum number of her genes in the next generations.
The ideal circumstances for the female is a stable relationship in which the children are cared for and nurtured by both parents. This gives them a better survival rate and hence a better chance that her genes will be there in the next gene pool. But at the same time it would be advantageous to have relationships outside of the marriage so that some of the children have different genes. This creates more variation and gives a greater chance for her genes to survive.
Both sexes have a vested interest in both stable relationships and affairs. Infidelity is biologically programmed. Perhaps humans need to reflect on our social models for marriage?
Because of our big brains babies take a long time to grow. They need a lot of nurturing and looking after. They take forever to become independent (around sixty years!)
Because of this they need two parents to provide the care, love and stimulation.
It’s bloody hard work.
Hence evolution has created a mechanism to ensure babies are brought up and cared for. It is pair-bonding. We call it love.
We fall in love and stay together. It’s all to do with hormones, pheromones and chemistry.
Being in love is a biological phenomenon evolved to keep two animals together long enough to bring their children up to an age when they are relatively independent (round about the age of sixty five!)
Being in love causes changes in brain chemistry resulting in euphoria, obsession with the partner and intense sexual stimulation. This great sex results in babies.
The intensity reduces but the relationship is fostered by this chemistry. It usually lasts for about seven years – long enough for a child to become relatively self-sufficient.
We need both partners to bring up a child.
In Africa they say that it takes a whole village to bring up a baby!