The Book of Death

Contents

Dedications

Introduction

  1. The present – I am dying
  2. The final frontier
  3. Which of the three biggest killers is most likely to get me?
  4. How would I like to die?
  5. The social taboo of death
  6. A culture terrified of death
  7. Can you have a dignified death?
  8. An Irish Wake
  9. How to die 2
  10. When are we dead?
  11. The sequence of my death
  12. Karma
  13. How am I doing at sixty-seven?
  14. Dying inside? Yes!
  15. Sam my dog
  16. Anecdote – reporting my death
  17. Seventy-four
  18. Downsizing
  19. Writing the Death Diaries
  20. The elderly lady and Hat
  21. Reassessment
  22. I’m still not dead
  23. Downsizing – We did it!
  24. Life and creativity
  25. Which killer?
  26. Still waiting
  27. From beyond the grave
  28. Which of us will go first?
  29. Life goes on
  30. Fit and healthy
  31. Death can wait another day
  32. So what have I got to live for?
  33. Liz’s burial wishes
  34. Leaving my body to medical science
  35. Too old
  36. Deaths of friends
  37. Rites and ceremonies
  38. Guides for death
  39. Death of a parent
  40. Legacies
  41. Current situation
  42. Indecision
  43. Present day – death of politics
  44. Cunning plans for the future
  45. Cataracts
  46. Being an old man
  47. We are all dying
  48. Reflections
  49. What happens after death?
  50. When we are dead?
  51. Medical science
  52. Lessons from a long life
  53. Death rituals – Bali
  54. Religious ceremonies
  55. Spiritualism
  56. Air burials
  57. Life after death
  58. State of health update
  59. Death is natural – We are programmed in our DNA
  60. Mexico – The Day of the Dead
  61. What actually will happen as we die
  62. Benefits of being old
  63. This book is frustrating – I’m still here!
  64. Epitaphs
  65. Where does it lead?
  66. Post death revelations
  67. Celebration of my life
  68. Death of my Dad
  69. Enjoying the sun
  70. More death rituals
  71. Life after death
  72. Mum and spiritualism
  73. Egocentric solipsism and other death philosophies
  74. My Mum’s death
  75. Lies
  76. Souls, spirits and essence
  77. Spirituality
  78. How am I doing at seventy-six?
  79. The existentials – Sartre, De Beauvois and Camus
  80. Quantum Death
  81. Fast or slow?
  82. Death Cleaning
  83. The Native American girl on the Greyhound Bus
  84. Assisted dying
  85. Thanks for DEATH!
  86. What’s going to happen to me?
  87. Perhaps there is no death after all?
  88. This could be the last time! May be the last time, I don’t know.
  89. Deathbed regrets
  90. How is this book going to end?

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The Death Diaries – Life after death

I’m still working on my book on death. It was intended to be a diary of my road towards death. Nothing much has happened on that side yet. Not much of a diary, eh? Never mind. It is proving to be a vehicle for me to ramble on about death. I’m finding that entertaining.

Life after death

Death makes you think about after-death. Is there life after death? I think not. Indeed, looking at the state of the world and lives of my fellow humans I wonder, in a lot of cases, if there is life before death.

Life after death presupposes some internal spirit/soul that resides in the living body, contains the essence of ‘us’, and, after death, leaves the body to go somewhere else.

For Hindus and Buddhists this spirit is reincarnated to reside in the body of another human or animal. Spiritualists believe this too. They believe you keep coming back to live different lives in order to learn lessons and progress (not sure what the endpoint of this progression is – similar to Buddhist nirvana I imagine). For most other religions the spirit heads off on a journey, crossing rivers with ferrymen or working through circles of hell, or simply wandering around lost, until they are guided or find their way into some promised land. In some religions you earn the right of instant passage and wake up in Paradise, with all its cooling fountains and 24 virgins, or Valhalla with its laden tables, flowing lager and winsome wenches. The Egyptians believed that you entered the underworld of Duat where you were given various challenges in order to achieve eternal life.

This idea of a journey and challenges in the afterlife is fairly common. In Vietnam and China I attended various packed ceremonies in temples to celebrate ancestors. They venerated their ancestors. To help their ancestors on their journey in the afterlife and make things easier they provided them with the things that might come in handy. Whereas the Celts and Egyptians provided weapons, food and female companions (they sometimes killed attendants and placed them in the tomb to bring ‘comfort’ to the dead chieftains), the Chinese and Vietnamese provided all the comforts that modern technology could bring. These were symbolised. There were market stalls full of paper images. You could purchase large cars, TVs, hairdryers, scooters – any and every gadget under the sun. You took them to the temple and burnt them in a specially constructed kiln/shrine. The smoke of the objects wafted up to the heavens where, amazingly, it was reconstituted as the real thing so that your ancestors could drive around and watch TV in luxury as they wended their way through the world that comes next. I found this hilarious. I had a picture in my head of my dead relatives driving around in a place called heaven and popping off ‘home’ to their house in the sky to catch some drama or soap – probably ‘Trouble In Paradise’ or some such. This afterlife seems to be indistinguishable from our present life. Strange that.

There’s no accounting for what people choose to believe. All these descriptions of worlds after death seem equally weird to me. There’s also no shortage of people ready to exploit these beliefs for profit (power or wealth). I was amazed to find the Vietnamese temples having cages crammed with terrified small birds and pots crammed with baby turtles or fish. For a sum you could gain good Karma by paying for the release of these creatures. That seemed a tad strange to me. What about all the bad Karma of placing the poor creatures in these conditions in the first place? That was brushed over.

Conversely the afterlife is not so good for all the non-believers or those that have strayed off the path and not obeyed the rules (the elaborate rules include, according to your brand, the eating fish on Friday, consuming a pork sausage or beef pie, working on Friday, Saturday or Sunday, masturbating, killing, eating non-kosher, eating seafood, having sex before marriage, possessing a foreskin, or not wearing the right hat, veil or robes, not praying enough or attending ceremonies, performing prayers or rituals, penances). Diet, clothes, austerity and sex are very big in religions. They all have different rules and regulations, requirements and penances that enable them to stand out and be recognised. It’s cultural. It is intended to identify and divide. The ‘real’ believers can be separated from the heathen other believers. True disciples demonstrate their allegiance and strength of belief by their strict adherence to the rules and extra commitment. This will, we are assured, pay off in the afterlife.

Of course, the rules can be circumvented. Thou shalt not kill can quickly turn into ‘your god demands that you should kill in his name’. Then it is OK to smash babies’ brains out, blow up whole rooms of innocent partygoers, fly plane-loads of kids into buildings, indiscriminately bomb and stone or burn people alive for public entertainment. It is justified to torture people horrendously to force confessions so that their souls can be saved. The sexual rules are also very strict unless it comes to Popes, like the Borgias, and young boys and sheep, or priests and altar boys. As long as you do it all in God’s name, against the right people (the others) and repent of your sins. So as long as Hitler confessed to his sins he has a place in heaven. Whereas a young road accident victim who was killed at a tender age, had recently masturbated and not had time to confess and ask for absolution, is doomed to everlasting torment from the god that loves them. Rules is rules. It’s more than me job’s worth.

So life after death is not so hot for the ones who made the wrong choices or broke the rules. They can look forward to everlasting agony. That seems a trifle harsh to me.

But all that is only if you choose to believe in souls and spirits. I don’t. I don’t think I have a soul. No spirit will flee my dead body to roam around as a ghost, waft up to heaven or drop down to hell. There will be no virgins, fountains, lager, wenches or singing in celestial choirs for me. I am the pattern of electricity in my neural network. Nothing more. When it ceases to zing around in my head I shall no longer exist. For me death will be like it was before I was born; what it is like in a dreamless sleep. No pain, no regrets, no pleasures, no fears, no ambitions, no nothing.

I’m not looking forward to death but I accept it as inevitable. Somehow, knowing that it is looming makes life all the more precious. Every second counts. Death, with its endless nothingness, makes life all the more precious, makes this universe all the more wonderful, magnificent and spectacular. For me, every waking minute is a miracle. I do not need to create fanciful futures of heavens, hells and karma with its reincarnation, no matter how psychologically pleasing they might be. I am reconciled. Life is super precious. Until my death I shall enjoy it to the very maximum. I shall enjoy every aspect of the magnificence of the universe I woke into and take pleasure in all the range of wonders nature and human creativity have to offer. Life is my smorgasbord.

I shall also enjoy the rich variations in costume and ritual from cultures all over the world. I shall greatly enjoy not having to be a slave to any set of rules, rituals or gospels.

In my view death has greatly enriched our cultures! Long live death!

Poetry – Rituals

Rituals

Ceremonies and rituals

From days long gone

To sun and moon and stars.

Performed between the stones

As the Green Man

Peered from the foliage.

Ceremonies of fertility

Fecundity and survival;

Praise for the turning

Of the seasons,

The wheel of life.

Rituals of love

Rituals for crops and hunts,

For births and deaths.

Rituals for the unknown.

Superstitions

That if these rituals

Were not performed

The world would crease

And dissolve back

To whence it had come.

Opher 1.8.2018

We humans do love our rituals.

What would we do without them?

I love rituals as much as anyone else. But having a ritual, with all its pomp and ceremony, lavish equipment, wondrous attire, great pronouncements and even sacrifices, does not make it real.

The world did not end when those ancient shamen stopped performing their rituals. Neither will we will enter a new world because religious rituals have been performed.

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Rituals, Odes & Mystic anxieties

Each Moment

This is the one of my secular ritual poems; to give thanks for life and to be grateful that we have evolved eyes to see and senses with which to witness something of the majesty of the universe – to be thankful that the universe exists.

There are mysteries all around us and we use our senses and the instruments we devise with our intelligence to understand and marvel.

Each moment here is heaven. We have no need for more.

Intelligence is rare. Life might be so rare we will never contact another race. But we can imagine, feel and experience the enormity of infinite possibility.

That is exalting in itself.

We should have rituals for each and every sunset. They are precious.

 

Each Moment

Each moment is precious –

Each and every moment.

Each moment is a great gift from fate,

Born of chance.

We are thankful for this great opportunity to breathe,

This chance to soak

In the dreams of life.

For what we have is more precious

Than we can imagine.

We are thankful

For the opportunity

To see oceans,

Sunsets,

Mountains

And sky.

We are thankful

For plants, animals

Moors and forests.

We are fortunate;

We have the great fortune to live.

 

Opher 14.3.2016


 

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Contents

Each Moment

This Moment

This is a Hit Song

Secular Ritual – How Wondrous

A Poem of hatred in numbers

There is a mystic

This is not too much to ask is it?

Making cash

The exam machine

Sun life

We’re all terminal

On the run

There was a boy

There’s room enough

What we want

I do not accept the limits

We used to be cool

By the carpark

From there to here in a breath

I write letters

Hate

I have been here

Why so glum

Light and warmth from many summers given and gone

Ignorant savages

From the heart and back

I sense love

We are family

Laughter as the ship goes down

A Holocaust

Little by Little

Trumped

Your absence is noted

Looking forward

The last tree

Imagine

Respect

Embracing Science

Our layer in the rocks

You and me Can do it!!!

Atoms and energy

Life that hopes

Life

Memory

Speed kills

Nothing to say

Mighty coil

Our light

Peering

All is flash and spin

Love poem of a scientist

Secondary sex characteristics

Creativity is our only salvation

Fodder for the exam machine

Nature’s joke that backfired

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Rituals, Odes & Mystic anxieties

The Blurb

This is my seventh book of poetry.
Poetry for me is a vehicle to explore and distil my thoughts, attitudes and feelings. These books are not by any means confined to my poems. Each poem is combined with a section of prose. It is intended to illustrate the issues and expose my inner thoughts.
The poems included cover a range of subject matter. They range through nature, love, war, religion and social comment. They express my feelings of anger, despair, tenderness as well as love and war.
Life is a wonder. A life unexamined is a life unlived. To be involved is to be alive.
As I sit here in my room in Yorkshire I reflect on the state of the planet and the nature of human beings. It is not always a pleasant experience but it is something that I feel needs to be dissected and understood.
Thought provoking, mind expanding and personal.
We have one life – it’s all down to what we do with it.

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Poetry Book – Rituals, Odes and Mystic Anxieties – My seventh anthology

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Rituals, Odes and Mystic Anxieties is my seventh book of poetry. I am presently in the process of publishing it.

My poetry books are not so much poems as explorations of my thoughts, feelings and the issues of the day.

This book contains a few of my secular celebrations of life.